It will shock you to discover that balance isn’t real. It really isn’t!
Does this sound typical to you? You are running late getting the kids off to school. You have fruit on the counter so your babies can eat a healthy breakfast before school. In the mad dash to get ready, they argue about eating the healthy choices. They beg and stomp and whine and cry for the Pop Tarts in the pantry. You cave in because the argument is making you even later for drop-off!
OR maybe this routine sounds familiar…
You’ve had a hard day at work. Your boss was on her period and nothing you did today was good enough for her. And you spilled your coffee on a pile of Post It notes for your afternoon meeting. The day is finally over, but while you are in the carpool line at school you spy the wrappers from your kid’s morning breakfast in the back seat and you just remembered there were a pile of towels on the sofa that still are begging to be folded.
OR, how about this scenario?
You go into your youngest child’s bedroom to read them a night-night story and your teenager strolls in to ask you a question. “Hey mom, I need vinegar for Science class.” You tell him to go ask his dad, but his reply is “Dad is asleep and snoring already.” You sigh and tell him you’ll pick some up tomorrow. Your son wigs out and says he has to have the vinegar tomorrow or he loses points on the experiment. You wig out because you were just at the store this afternoon! Now you won’t have time for that luxurious bubble bath you had been dreaming about all day!
So what the heck is balance and does it exist?
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, balance is defined as:
: the state of having your weight spread equally so that you do not fall
: the ability to move or to remain in a position without losing control or falling
: a state in which different things occur in equal or proper amounts or have an equal or proper amount of importance
As women, we are always striving for balance. We want more time to spend with our husbands or significant other, we want more time with our kids, and most of all we want more time for OURSELVES.
When will I have time to take that luxurious bubble bath? When will I have time to finish that great novel I began reading ages ago? When will I be able to just sit on the couch and watch an uninterrupted rerun of Friends?“You will never find time for anything. If you want time, you must make it.” ~Charles Bixton Click To Tweet
The shocking truth is balance is an illusion. Just when you think you’ve finally gotten your hands on it, it slowly seeps away without you even realizing it is happening. Before you know it, what you worked so hard to find is gone again. And you are back to square one. Dang it, right!?!Click To Tweet
I’m not saying you should throw in the towel and give up. No, no, no.
What I’m asking you to do is to tell yourself to stop running on the hamster wheel just to discover you have only arrived back at the beginning again. I’m asking you to stop beating yourself up for not being able to do everything. I’m asking you to give yourself permission to NOT be perfect. Because sweets, perfect doesn’t exist either.
I’m asking you to find 10 minutes for YOU, to embrace your right now… once a day, once a week, heck, even just once a month if that’s all you are capable of right now.Right now is the only time you have. Embrace it. Don’t waste it running aimlessly. ~Trish from Jewels by Trish Click To Tweet
Let me tell you a story…
Once upon a time there was a very tired, stressed, and frazzled mom. She never took time for herself and quite honestly, she was a little lost in this big world. One day she finally caved in to a friend’s request to join a tennis class. She didn’t “have time” for it, but she just couldn’t get this chick off her back.
And guess what?
She feel head over heals, irrevocably in love with tennis! She began FINDING TIME once a week for tennis. She began losing some extra pounds she had slowly allowed to creep onto her body. She began to feel happier. Her kids were happier! Her hubby was happier! Say whut??
Have you ever heard the phrase, “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy?” IT’S.SO.TRUE.
Right now you may be feeling as if you just cannot carve out even 1 minute for you. How on earth am I going to find 10 minutes, 30 minutes, or an hour for myself? By the way, the happy mom now plays tennis at least 2 times per week and she takes from 2-3 hours to do it. If she can do it, you can too!
I’m asking you to start slow.
Schedule, yes I said schedule, 10 minutes in right now for you some time in the next month. Write it down. Commit to it. Take that 10 minutes to do something you enjoy, something you have been neglecting. Get your family involved and lay out the ground rules for that time for you.
Then do it again and again and again and again. Slowly increase your time to an amount that makes you feel good. An amount that makes you feel happy again. An amount that makes you feel like the unique, special, wonderful woman you are inside. It can be 10 minutes once a month, once a week, or once a day. Once you begin scheduling that time for yourself, you will find that it becomes easier and easier. I promise sweets!
Need some accountability?
I’d love to help! Drop me a note in the comments section below. Tell me when you are scheduling your 10 minutes, what you plan to do with yourself, and what laws, if any, you laid down for your family.
Be sure to come back again next month for part 2 in the ‘Your Right Now’ series!